How healthy
is YOUR relationship?

Take this quiz
and find out!



1. Do you feel that you can share your thoughts and feelings with your partner?
Yes No

2. When you and your partner argue are you able to understand what it is they need?
Yes No

3. Do you consider your partner your friend?
Yes No

4. Do you respect your partner and if so, do you think they believe you respect them?
Yes No

5. Do you feel "connected" to your partner?
Yes No

6. Can you depend on your partner?
Yes No

7. Can you identify why you are attracted to your mate?
Yes No

8. Do you know your partner's hopes, dreams, and aspirations?
Yes No

9. Would you say your partner knows your hopes, dreams, and aspirations?
Yes No

10. Can you see yourself and your partner 5, 10, or 20 years from now and be able to describe what your relationship would be like?
Yes No

11. Do you and your partner have similar values?
Yes No

12. Have you and your partner set life goals together?
Yes No

Your score:

IF YOUR SCORE IS. . .

9-12 Your relationship is in good shape. You have done an excellent job focusing on your relationship and some of the important dynamics of a relationship.

5-9 Your relationship could use some more attention. You are on the right track and it is possible to learn more about your partner and improve on communication and understanding your relationship. It is apparent that you sincerely care about this relationship and want it to be the best it can be. Counseling would benefit your relationship and bring it to a higher level of stability and satisfaction.

0-4 Your relationship needs attention. It is missing some key ingredients that make relationships successful, however, it may not mean that it is hopeless. Just by taking the quiz means that you are concerned about your relationship and may possibly be looking to make changes and/or seek help to develop the kind of relationship you desire.

NOTE: This quiz was not developed using scientific methods and is not presented or claims to be empirically based. This quiz is the sole property of Julia Berreth, M.A., and may not be utilized for purposes of research or individual gain without specific permission from said property owner.


INFORMATIVE LINKS:

Psychology Today Magazine – Relationship Center

Deepak Chopra on "Keys to Healthy Relationships"

Excerpt from "Hold Me Tight"